Monday, May 09, 2005

SENIORS ARE OLD, NOT COLD

The subject of sex is not a dominant one when seniors get together around the condo pool. The men in the card room may trade dirty jokes between poker hands and the women may tilt their heads to listen as they play bridge or mar-john at adjoining tables. They'll titter and maybe blush but that's about all.

This piece is not being written in my usual verse style because I think it's a serious subject worth dignity: sexual intercourse between consensual seniors. Just because they have reached ages ranging from the seventies up to one hundred and more doesn't mean they've all lost the urge to merge, at least occasionally.

I don't know if there have been any in-depth studies in this area, but even if there have, they could hardly be objective considering the sensitivity of the subject. There are really only a few questions to ask: are you still interested in having sex with a woman/man, same sex or bisexual and how often? are you satisfied with achieving sexual satisfaction without the benefit of a partner? how would you go about securing a partner to share your needs and desires?

Obviously, seniors who have certain medical problems or physical restrictions will be reluctant to pursue sex partners, but that doesn't necessarily diminish their desires. Those willing and able are limited in their search to find partners suited to their needs. I would imagine gay seniors would have particular difficulty in this regard.

I would like to offer a few possibilities. Adult condos and senior centers could establish clubs and social events where the emphasis was on meeting, mating and sometimes marrying those of the same or opposite sex. Lectures on senior sex needs could open the doors to frank discussions from participants and a possible pairing and sharing by seniors so inclined

Obviously, seniors could not go bar hopping or prowling darkened neighborhoods where street walkers ply their trade. They can't, or at least shouldn't, advertise in alternate media for sex partners. In some situations the solution could be legalized, medically supervised prostitution and/or trained sex therapists either at a facility near the condos and senior housing or at the senior living quarters.

Such a service could provide needed physical and emotional therapy for participants. We welcome comments from professionals, seniors and blogers willing to express views and offer constructive suggestions on this sensitive and most serious subject.

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